“Hurt people hurt people” is a phrase that’s always stuck with me and has given me an understanding of why people have mistreated me when they did. It broadened my perspective and allowed me to see from the eyes of the abuser, allowing myself to be compassionate and forgiving to others. However, it also taught me that it is so important to break this cycle so that I did not become a victim of the abuse and come full circle, turning into the abuser. If we continue to allow this vicious cycle to perpetuate, then we risk repeating the cycle of hurting one another and this game only ends in pain. If we allow ourselves to operate from this mentality and allow ourselves to repeat the pain of the past, then we are no better than the people who hurt us.
We have to break the cycle and learn to be compassionate towards other people instead. In today’s world, we are often blinded by social media and people don’t realize all of the hardships that other people are going through and thus we become surprised by a sudden suicide or death of a closed one.
Remember that every single person that you encounter is going through something that you may not be aware of and thus it is now more important than ever that we cultivate compassion and kindness towards other people. Spreading love and kindness is the answer. We cannot allow bullying, hate, or these type of toxic behaviors to rule our lives.
Remember that every single person that you encounter is going through something that you may not be aware of and thus it is now more important than ever that we cultivate compassion and kindness towards other people. Spreading love and kindness is the answer. We cannot allow bullying, hate, or these type of toxic behaviors to rule our lives.
What if tomorrow was the last day for someone that you encountered today? What would you have done differently? How would you have treated this person? Would you have been kinder to them? Sometimes we are so caught up in our stuff that we forget to be considerate to those around us. So I encourage you to cultivate more compassion within yourself. To be kind to others. To support your neighbors as if they were your family because, in the end, this is what matters. All the little things you did to lift someone else up when they are down instead of putting them down.
When the end of your life comes, I hope you remember all of the amazing things you did to uplift others instead of living from a space of pain, hurt, and resentment because that is no way to live.
I hope you fully embrace life and happiness and allow yourself to feel the depths and pain of life without letting it break you into pieces and letting it dictate your life.
Journaling Questions
- How are you currently being abused in your life by others?
- How much of this abuse are you allowing?
- Why are you allowing it?
- What part of you makes you feel worthy of this abuse?
- How are you abusing others in your life?
- What can you do to change this abuse?
- How much anger, resentment, and frustration are you allowing in your life?
- Who and what can you forgive so that you can move on?
- What can you do to break the cycle and perpetuation of hurting yourself and others?
- What can you do to cultivate more happiness in your life?
Love always,
Julia
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